First of all – It’s so great to re-connect with you 🙂 If you’re new, welcome! I love the break of summer-time and at the same time I’ve been writing posts in my head at many times through-out the summer. What to share? What might be helpful? What could I focus on?
Today I’m going to keep it simple with a few highlights/things I’m thinking about. Also – thank you to those who responded to the June post – it seems that connecting to Life Force was the most popular interest. I will be sharing more about this once I get organized.
Like many people, I went and saw the Barbie movie, did you? Greta Gerwig launched herself as a director & writer, and I can’t wait to see what she comes up with next. A highlight for me during this movie was America Ferrera’s monologue in the middle of it about the plight of being a woman in a patriarchal world.
“It is literally impossible to be a woman. You are so beautiful, and so smart, and it kills me that you don’t think you’re good enough. Like, we have to always be extraordinary, but somehow we’re always doing it wrong.
You have to be thin, but not too thin. And you can never say you want to be thin. You have to say you want to be healthy, but also you have to be thin. You have to have money, but you can’t ask for money because that’s crass. You have to be a boss, but you can’t be mean. You have to lead, but you can’t squash other people’s ideas. You’re supposed to love being a mother, but don’t talk about your kids all the damn time. You have to be a career woman but also always be looking out for other people.
You have to answer for men’s bad behavior, which is insane, but if you point that out, you’re accused of complaining. You’re supposed to stay pretty for men, but not so pretty that you tempt them too much or that you threaten other women because you’re supposed to be a part of the sisterhood.
But always stand out and always be grateful. But never forget that the system is rigged. So find a way to acknowledge that but also always be grateful.
You have to never get old, never be rude, never show off, never be selfish, never fall down, never fail, never show fear, never get out of line. It’s too hard! It’s too contradictory and nobody gives you a medal or says thank you! And it turns out in fact that not only are you doing everything wrong, but also everything is your fault.
I’m just so tired of watching myself and every single other woman tie herself into knots so that people will like us. And if all of that is also true for a doll just representing women, then I don’t even know.”Barbie Movie (2023)
As a woman, I certainly related to many parts of this monologue and there is something healing to hear so many big truths spoken out loud in such a big movie.
I decided to experiment with sacred geometry. I’ve been re-reading Tom Kenyon’s The Hathors, and in it they detail a month long plan to experiment with specific sacred geometry. I decided to slow it down and do this over 2 months to take it all in. There were 3 separate exercises, each more complex than the next. I spent 5-15 minutes a day closing my eyes and visualizing each exercise. I found that after a couple of weeks energetically I felt quite spacious and my mind and energetic field felt very clear and energized.
Have you played with sacred geometry? What was your experience like?
This topic is on my list to explore more deeply over the next few months.
Anchoring in Self
This one sounds boring, but it’s probably been the most trans-formative. It’s something I use a lot in therapy and have wanted to explore this more deeply on consistent basis within myself.
I’m a big fan of the psychotherapy model Internal Family Systems. I find the essence of this model is learning how to interact with yourself with the lens that you have NO BAD PARTS and then learning to connect to your SELF and be led by this deep inner wisdom instead of your parts.
Schwartz describes Self as the part of ourselves that is “mindfully curious, calm, confident, and often even compassionate” (Schwartz, 2021, p.22). Every person has access to this place within themselves. This place will often share inner guidance about what is needed to heal old wounds. The goal is to connect to Self on a daily basis and interact with the world from this place. I find when I connect to this place, I feel lighter, energetically more spacious, and my mind is much quieter.
If you want to try this at home, you can start by closing your eyes in meditation. Then, imagine you are walking along a path in nature. As you venture forward, you will have parts of yourself that interrupt this journey with thoughts. These thoughts are connected to different parts of yourself e.g. the task-master that comes up with things you need to remember or could be doing instead. Each time you acknowledge the presence of a part and then ask if could step back for now and allow you to continue down the path for a little while.
This is one of those meditations that is “simple but not easy”. If you hit some road-blocks I recommend Richard Schwartz’s book No Bad Parts or work with a psychotherapist who uses Internal Family Systems. There are some meditations on YouTube, but I can’t vouch for the quality – search for “Richard Schwartz Path Meditation”.
Reference: Schwartz, R.C. (2021) No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma & Restoring Wholeness with The Internal Family Systems Model. Sounds True.
How was your Summer? or Winter if you’re in that part of the world?