Many times in my energy healing practice I’ve had people ask me if I can cut some energetic cords from someone they no longer want in their life.
If this concept is new to you, briefly, energetic cords are the connections we make with others in our lives. They can be positive (connections of love) or they can be a burden (someone is putting their emotional baggage on you).
Energetic cords show up in a variety ways. I’ll give you two examples:
1) when you spend time with a certain person you always feel exhausted, irritable or sad afterwards – you pick up the energy that they’re bringing to you.
2) You have a past relationship that still haunts you. You still feel like they’re partially connected to you even though you never see them or they’ve passed away.
As an energy healer, I can technically cut cords a person has with someone, however, in my experience this often ignores the root problem, so this wouldn’t be my approach. You can cut cords with a person, but they often return if the underlying root cause is ignored.
How Do You Feel The Other Person’s Energy in Your Field?
Sometimes there is someone in our lives who is pushing their energy forcefully towards us. If you are naturally an empath or learned to feel others emotions at a young age to keep yourself safe, you may find that these energies are sticky in your energetic field.
When I work with people, I ask them to connect to how they are feeling the other person’s energy in their field. Sometimes it dominates to the point that they can’t feel themselves. Sometimes they get very tired, lose their train of thought, or dissociate. Sometimes it’s just a whisper of their presence, but it persists in a quiet but notable way.
You Have The Ability to Release Cords
Instead of cutting cords, I like to shift the perspective to releasing cords.
I like to empower people and help them realize that they have the ability to release these cords. I help people delve a little deeper and explore why the energetic cords are sticking around.
Psychotherapy as an Combined Approach
Counselling can be our ally in the process of releasing cords. I often use Internal Family Systems parts work to help a person connect to:
a) the part of themselves that is allowing the other person’s energy into their field (the part that wants the connection to stay or is fearful of letting the connection go)
b) the other parts of themselves that want the cords to be released
c) Self/higher Self/Witness
Compassion & Curiosity are always needed during this process. This is not about taking on the blame for the situation. Everyone has the ability to connect to the part of themselves that can set an energetic boundary, but parts of ourselves that get in the way have often been present for very good reasons. The process of psychotherapy helps us cognitively understand why we might be holding onto old cords and empowers us to release them in a healing way.
Energy Healing
Sometimes it’s enough to do the counselling portion, however when I blend energy healing into the mix, it’s even more effective. Often as a person receives the energy healing we do some of the parts work at the same time. There is no cookie cutter approach to releasing cords or shielding oneself from another person’s energy.
Core Star
In my experience, anchoring in core star is the most powerful ways to help cords be released and disintegrate. If you’ve been following along with my energy healing at home series, try expanding your core star and intentionally releasing or dissolving another person’s cords.
Hara
Sometimes the act of aligning in Hara and setting a firm energetic boundary is more effective for a person. I feel this as a person exuding a sturdy NO type of energy. Some people can hold this alignment, but for many this is something doesn’t come naturally.
As we spend time in Hara or Core Star more often, this will become more habitual for you.
How Long Will The Process Take?
It is helpful to do a 90 minute session to allow the time and space to do this deep work. Even after one session, people often feel relief. Consistent sessions allow a person to do the deeper work and consciously shift into a new pattern after years of being in an old pattern. It’s very easy to go back to old patterns. Our nervous systems often kick us back into old patterns until it learns and trusts that a new pattern is better for ourselves. Our nervous system starts to reset.
I’m curious to hear your perspective on cord cutting – if you’ve had some success releasing cords, how did you do it?
